Assalamualaikum dear beloved readers.
As mentioned on the title of this post, I want to express my feelings that I have had, towards the very day that I have been waiting for, my Wedding Day, insha Allah…
My fiance and I have been waiting for this day since 3 years ago, when at that time, everything was so unsure and we were so afraid of what the world has gotten for us. At that time, both of our family members dislike the idea that both of us want to be together. We even took the step of giving time for our family to calm down, and Alhamdulillah the best thing happen when both of our parents discussed with each other (without me being in the picture) and everything was settled just with the essence of democracy and tolerance given by both parties. Alhamdulillah, Allah made that happen.
At the moment I am still very excited with the idea of getting married to the man who has been the bestfriend that I’ve had. Despite being nervous to actually start the life as a wife, I also can’t wait to be part of his life and I can’t wait for him to be part of mine. We have had moments of when we are afraid to be committed to each other, and we have also had moments of which I would wish to quote, “this is the time, dear, in a few weeks time, we will belong to each other…”
I had instances when individuals telling me that a married life is indeed a stressful one, and that is when you learn that your husband is not the boyfriend that you used to have. Instances when people telling me to beware with the mother in law because it’s her son that you’re trying to take away. Alhamdulillah, I don’t want to believe in all that. My future husband has never been the good quality boyfriend (he does not do fake things to make me melt or such, as he believes that a boyfriend is not a husband, thus we are saving the goodness when we are more lawful and halal to each other!) and my future mother in law and father in law is the second parents that I have, wonderful people that will take care of me like their own daughter!
Allah has said in Surah Ar-Rum, Verse number 21 :
(Taken from http://quran.com/30/21)
What is there for you to worry, when Allah has already placed between your husband and yourself, affection and mercy? Trust Allah’s words, insha Allah you will be able to grasp the goodness out of your marriage, and insha Allah your partner will also try the very best to be the best person for Allah’s sake, for your sake, and for your family’s sake. Don’t worry… Allah promised it in the Qur’an.
I am a strong believer that if I believe in Allah’s words, I am in good hands. I pray and hope that I will continue being like this for the rest of my life, and I thank Allah that my future husband is also a person that believes in the same concept as I. For this marriage, it’s true and I also admit that we might do it not as necessarily stated from the accordance of the sunnah, but as long as we don’t go overboard, I will be happy. I will be happy to create a memorable day of us both being lawfully married and I can’t wait to build a family with my future husband, the man who will lead the family. Ameen.